Who is Jennifer Reeves?
Jennifer Reeves is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapy Supervisor and Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor. Jen is a member of the fightin’ Texas Aggie class of 2004, where she obtained her Bachelor’s in Psychology. She then went on to gain experience in the mental health field by counseling teenage girls in foster care group homes before earning her Master’s in Family Therapy from the University of Houston-Clear Lake and becoming a licensed mental health practitioner in 2012.
Jen first realized she wanted to be a therapist starting in high school. She was involved in the Girl Scouts and acted as a mentor to the younger girls, providing mentorship as well as being a trusted confidant. Ultimately, Jen decided she wanted to specialize in sex therapy due to watching Dr. Ruth Westheimer talk openly, frankly, and unapologetically about sex. Inviting couples and individuals to experience curiosity and feeling of empowerment, influenced the framework for how Jennifer would approach future clients. She also listened to “Loveline with Dr. Drew Pinsky and Adam Corolla” and found she had a natural intuition for what was happening with the callers. These experiences have led to a passion to help those seeking guidance in their intimate relationships.
In her spare time, Jen likes to snuggle with her two kitties, Khaleesi and Avienda. You might be able to find her on the ice, as she is on a curling league in Houston, Texas. She also enjoys playing board and card games, going to see live music, and can often be seen by her peers and clients whistling or singing when she is wandering around her office.
What a session is like with Jen?
Jen works hard to maintain a judgment-free zone in her office and often quickly puts clients at ease with her warm smile and open nature. She approaches her clients with curiosity and care, and the belief that clients are the experts of their own lives and experiences. She will go at the client’s pace and press only when she believes that the client is ready to go further into their care.
When working with couples, she makes sure each person in the relationship feels heard and understood and allows for each person to voice their perceptions. She will help create reachable goals and check-in as therapy progresses. Jen believes that laughter is vital to healing and therefore creates space in her sessions to have some light-hearted comic relief. However, she does not shy away from addressing the “harder” emotions that may lie underneath the surface, believing people need to feel their emotions in order to move with and through them. In fact, she does not believe in negative or positive emotions; rather that all emotions are normal and we are meant to have them. She helps clients to facilitate the process of understanding and expressing emotions in healthier ways. Furthermore, in Jen’s office, no subject is taboo! When it comes to sex and couple’s therapy her primary goals are to increase communication skills and acceptance, as these are the primary tenants to healthy relationships, as well as healthy sex.
What is sex therapy?
Sex therapy is a specialized type of psychotherapy that works with clients dealing with sexual issues. And while any mental health professional or therapist can do sex therapy, many cannot call themselves a certified sex therapist. Classification as a certified sex therapist requires extra training and certification in sex therapy. Sex therapists are knowledgeable in physiological and emotional responses to various sexual concerns. Sex therapists work with individuals, couples and/or families. Common issues seen by sex therapists, such as Jen Reeves, include, but are not limited to: desire discrepancy (differences in sex drives), lack of desire or disconnect, unhealthy relationship with porn, inability to orgasm (inorgasmia), erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, sexual shame, fetishes, infidelity, sexual identity issues, sexual orientation issues, sexual trauma, inability to communicate about sex in a healthy way, out of control sexual behaviors (sometimes referred to as sexual addiction), and sexual and genital pain disorders.
What is the difference between standard relationship therapy and sex therapy?
In “typical” relationship therapy, the therapist is often trained in working with couples and helps couples to resolve their differences. Therapists and clients often focus on enhancing communication skills and developing agreed-upon familial patterns. That being said, when working with couples, relationship therapy is often comingled with sex therapy. Quite often, the sex therapy sessions still focus on communication skills as a basic core need to both enhancing the relationship then further enhancing the sexual health and sexual intimacy within the relationship. However, with sex therapy the therapist will not shy away from sexual concerns and will create a safe space to discuss any sexual health issues seen within the relationship.
When should you seek a sex therapist?
Anytime, an individual or couple is experiencing one of the aforementioned issues, or any other non-listed sexual issue, then it is highly recommended that one should seek out a certified sex therapist. The clinician will provide a safe, non-judgmental, and open environment for examining the issues. Through a combination of therapeutic techniques, sex therapists help clients to identify beliefs, patterns, or behaviors that might be standing in the way of a fulfilling and healthy sex life. When working with a specialist, clients can have increased confidence and hope that these goals will be achievable.
If you’re not sure about sex therapy over video sessions, send a quick question to Jen Reeves or one of our Intima providers. Many questions about your hesitancy or need for help can be quickly answered by our providers. What are you waiting for? Sign up today here!